Dangers of Jealousy

Dangers of Jealousy

Jealousy in a relationship may grow and grow until it destroys everything you are so desperately trying to protect. When we have a low self-worth, fearful that we are of little value in a relationship our jealousy can run amuck, spinning out of control. Issues of low self-worth and fear – contribute to its growth. It takes a large, terrifying, raging shape and it’s fed over and over again. That’s why it’s referred to as a monster, a “green-eyed monster”

In concert with this view of low self-worth and fear, our imagination can run unbridled, manufacturing thoughts and even beliefs about our partner and their behavior. Instead of a relationship built on care and support it becomes a possessive attachment. The partner in turn becomes a possession. Like many issues it has a cycle. One partner (#1) feels needy and worthless; they become angry putting unreal or inappropriate demands on their partner (#2) and/or accusing them of indiscretions. The receiving partner (#2) cannot meet the inappropriate demands and in turn partner #1 gets more upset strengthening their beliefs. Partner #2 withdrawals further, becomes frustrated, feeling trapped and isolated, realizing they cannot grow an develop as an individual. They may harbor feelings of guilt, even when they have been unjustly accused of *imagined wrongs.

Solutions to resolve feelings of jealously:

*Be open about your needs to your partner and express them directly.

*Be aware of your partner’s limitations.

*Avoid creating scenarios that are manufactured lacking in facts.

*Avoid interrogation tactics.

*Work on your self-worth. We all have value – ask your self – What am I lacking that makes me feel this way? Then go about changing it. Refer to the article on the subconscious article on subconscious under hypnosis.

*Enjoy your togetherness.

Suggestions for those feeling entrapped by their partners jealously.

*Quit feeling guilty for things you never did.

*Communicate with your partner about the value of trust in a relationship.

*You have needs address those needs directly with your partner.

*Build your partners self-concept and self-worth.

*Remember you have every right to grow and develop as an individual.

A healthy relationship is developed around trust, building each others self-esteem, enjoying togetherness and having fun.