Anger

 

ANGER

Anger is one of our four basic emotions.  They are, sad, glad, mad and fear.  There are several events real or imagined that incite our anger.  For instance fear, disrespect; real or imagined, stress, grief, and our insecurities may make us angry.  The responses are connected to our survival instincts, that of “fight” or “flight”.  Our approach to managing our anger whether appropriately or in appropriately is our concern at this juncture.  Before moving on I must address the fact that anger can be of a positive nature.  In a positive sense anger may motivate someone to seek a better job or leave a dysfunctional relationship.  Athletically, controlled anger may enhance ones performance.  On the negative side anger may cause a multitude of physical complications; i.e., heart attacks, headaches and ulcers, etc.  Also, mental  complications can occur  due to uncontrolled anger, i.e.; our decision making process can become skewed.  We can respond with emotional, mental or physical violence or we can utilize several tools that enable us to release our anger and resolve conflicts fittingly.  Attached is a list of aids we can use to manage  our anger appropriately.

ANGER CONTROL TIPS:(Please see newsletter attachment)

·          Recognize

       Physical Cues — A good warning sign that your anger is escalating: increased heart rate, face feeling flushed, etc.

       Mental Cues —Contemplating harming the other person. 

·          “Cool down” &“Time outs”.

·          Self-talk—voicing to yourself words such as “relax” or “calm down”.

·          Put your anger on a scale of  1 = calm to 10 = explosive.  When your reach 4-5 stop, walk away and re-think the situation.

·          Act on a situation do not react to it.

·          Use logic—I/E = Intellect over Emotion

·          Behaviors = Thoughts = Feelings; all are enmeshed.  If you change one of  the above the other two have to change.

Try to see the others point of view.  Even if they feel as we do about a specific issue there may be a wide range of intensity  within that feeling for each individual.

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